by Gail Ruth on February 16, 2010
Welcome to this feast of blessing prepared especially for the highly sensitive Christian — may you find nourishment here for your relationship with God and for your relationship with your own sensitive heart.
For you followers of Jesus who are not particularly sensitive, may you too find good food here for your spiritual journey.
And for you who are highly sensitive but do not consider yourself a follower of Jesus, may you be blessed here.
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Above all, be blessed!
Gail Ruth
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by Gail Ruth on February 21, 2010
“Don’t trust your feelings.” I bet you’ve been told that once or twice. And it’s a useful bit of advice. At least up to a point.
Such as when we’re dealing with the feelings that send us on the roller-coaster ride of emotional instability. Understanding that our feelings of the moment do not necessarily represent truth for our lives allows us to better navigate our emotional responses.
Neither our highs nor our lows properly interpret the reality of any given situation. That surge of energy we might feel in a new project or relationship is not a herald of it’s rightness in our lives. And feelings of bottomed-out discouragement are not a message from our hearts saying, “Bail because it’s all for naught.”
Feelings and Deeper Reality
Just imagine the emotional chaos that must have been winging around in the hearts of Jesus’ disciples after His crucifixion but before His resurrection. They must have been experiencing a great deal of emotional distress.
But even in the midst of their distress was the truth which they did not comprehend: that they were living through the long-planned strategic sacrifice that brought God’s promised gift of grace into the world.1 Even though their feelings didn’t discern this at the time. (And neither did their understanding.)
Emotions Enrich Life
While we may not be able to trust our feelings (or our minds) to accurately interpret our circumstances, it is impoverishing if we take this mistrust too far.
If the highly sensitive person distances from his or her emotions, this can deprive life of much beauty, depth, and meaning.
King David As a Role Model
King David modeled the life of an emotional man devoted to God. I won’t speculate about his level of sensitivity because such conjecture of a man from antiquity is meaningless, but we can clearly see the strong emotions he poured out into his poetry and song as recorded in the ancient scriptures.
What so distinguished David was that he took a broad spectrum of emotion straight into his relationship with God. He was emotionally expressive with God, and his emotions showed in tears, shouting, singing, and even intense dancing.2
He didn’t try to contain his emotions; he poured them out before God. He expressed his whole heart to God freely, over and over declaring that he was putting his trust in and taking refuge in YHWH.3
From God he sought answer for his despair. From God he sought deliverance from many life-and-death situations. In God he strengthened himself in difficult times.4 And with and to God he shared his joy and his expressive rejoicing.
As he shared his heart with God, God shared His own heart back. God is quoted as saying that David was “a man after My own heart”.5
Sharing Your Emotional Life with God
If God created you with emotion, you might want to consider sowing those feelings into emotional relationship with God. And expressing those feelings freely in worship of Him. You might even become a person after God’s own heart like David was.
Blessings!
Gail Ruth
1 Romans 5:9-19
2 Psalm 6:8, I Chronicles 13:8, 2 Samuel 6:14-15, 2 Samuel 6:14
3 From Psalm 25:20. Strong’s Concordance indicates that this phrase can be translated “I put my trust in you” or “I take refuge in you”.
YHWH: God told His name to Moses, and Moses recorded God’s name in scripture. But the ancient Hebrew writing consisted only of consonants and so without the vowels we don’t know for certain what God’s name sounds like. YHWH is the English transliterations of those four consonants in the name of God. In the Old Testament, English translations traditionally replace this with a generic word – “LORD” (in all capital letters). My personal preference when quoting scripture is to revert to the transliteration of the actual name of God as recorded in the original Hebrew text rather than replacing it with a substitute word.
4 I Samuel 30:6
5 I Samuel 13:14, Acts 13:22
by Gail Ruth on February 2, 2010
Do you ever feel confused and conflicted when you’re looking for direction from the Holy Spirit? Do you ever wonder how you’d recognize His answer if it came?
I believe that, as Christian highly sensitive people, our feelings can give us clues about the Holy Spirit’s leading.
Although the Holy Spirit speaks English just fine, I’ve observed that He rarely answers our requests for guidance with clear English messages straight to our conscious minds. Even when the early church was evaluating whether or not the Gentile believers needed to follow the Jewish Law, all they could say was, “It seemed good to the Holy Spirit and to us…” (Acts 15:28).
My underlying assumption is that the Holy Spirit, because He indwells the followers of Jesus (John 14:17), communicates constantly with the inner human spirit. And our inner human spirit understands His intentions and desires far easier than our conscious minds ever will.
Rule of Thumb
I have a rule of thumb developed from lots of trial and error over the decades. A “yes” from the Holy Spirit:
- Does not feel desperate or grasping.
- Does not feel excited or pushed.
- Does not have a heavy, stoic, practical feeling.
- Does have a very calm, peaceful, “Ah, of course; I get it” feeling.
And Your Understanding Will Mess With It
Beware though. Your understanding will mess with it. That’s why Wisdom says, “Trust in YHWH with all your heart and do not lean on your own understanding” (Proverbs 3:5). It is with our heart that we trust, not with our understanding.
Our understanding is well-trained and well-practiced in spiritualizing, rationalizing, and justifying, and speaks fluent shoulds, oughts, maybe’s, and buts.
Below is a little graphic example of what we often do to our answers to prayer.
This is your answer to prayer at last revealed in your heart. Such lovely clarity in that elusive heart of yours.
This is your understanding. It likes to dominate and be in charge.
This is what your understanding will do with that answer to prayer. Spiritualize, rationalize, justify. Should, ought, maybe, but...
Now try making sense of this.
Understanding is useful, but not as useful as it likes to think.
Blessings!
Gail Ruth
P.S. No eggs were squandered in the making of these photos. This one went into our fried rice :-)